“Allah tumharey naseeb achey karey!” (May Allah make good your destiny)
Being desi we often receive loving du’aas like these from beloved elderly relatives or friends. Recently when a dear one said these words to me, I couldn’t help but wonder over the actual meaning of the words. I feel we have restricted the meaning of *achey naseeb* (good destiny) to receiving all that a person would desire of worldly bounties – a good life with a good education, a great job, an amazing spouse, cute babies, a luxurious lifestyle, etc. So usually that is precisely what we mean, when we use these words while making du’aa for ourselves or others.
Seldom do we think of associating *achey naseeb* with a life spent in humble obedience to Allah and the strength and will to strive in deeds that would lead to a good life in the Hereafter – An eternal life of peace and delight in eternal Gardens of bliss far from the torturous burning heat of the Hellfire, knowing that our Creator is pleased with us.
Our apathy to look at the bigger picture of wellness in the Hereafter and working for it is quite upsetting. When we don’t possess the finer things in life, we begin to think that we lack the means to be happy – People with a failed marriage, or who have been single, widowed, divorced, remained childless or unable to find their dream job etc. are labeled as *bud-naseeb* (unfortunate). People in our society question them, taunt them and force them to think likewise.
But know, know without a doubt that there is absolutely no way to think that possessing these blessings is what makes one a possessor of *achey naseeb*. Rather, it is the choice of our actions which lead to a good or bad destiny and Allah clearly states this in Surah Al Isra:
“And [for] every person We have imposed his fate [destiny] upon his neck, and We will produce for him on the Day of Resurrection a record which he will encounter spread open.” (17:13)
The blessed ones on that Day, who attain true success and happiness according to Allah, are the ones who get to enter Jannah as a consequence of their righteous actions and who are saved from the torment of Hellfire. Those are the truly fortunate ones – the ones with *bohat achey Naseeb* !! :)
وَأَمَّا ٱلَّذِينَ سُعِدُوا۟ فَفِى ٱلْجَنَّةِ خَـٰلِدِينَ فِيهَا مَا دَامَتِ ٱلسَّمَـٰوَٰتُ وَٱلْأَرْضُ إِلَّا مَا شَآءَ رَبُّكَ ۖعَطَآءً غَيْرَ مَجْذُوذٍ
“And as for those who were [destined to be] prosperous, they will be in Paradise, abiding therein as long as the heavens and the earth endure, except what your Lord should will – a bestowal uninterrupted.” (Surah Hud 11:108)
We teach our daughters to be kind, and to be compassionate. We teach them to be obedient to their fathers, brothers and husbands. We teach them etiquettes of eating, speaking, and sitting. We teach them how to respect their elders, to cook excellently, and to raise kids perfectly.
Yet, we forget to teach them to be brave, and courageous. We forget to tell them to dismiss Falsehood and to stand up for the Truth. We forget to teach them the value of their opinion. We forget to teach them to be steadfast in their Deen when difficulties come their way. We forget to teach them to follow what is Right no matter what happens.
Because we are afraid they will become bold. We are afraid they will rebel. We are afraid that they will be difficult to control. But is that really so? This is a major concern.
How will your daughter love Allah, when people oppose her for doing so? How will she deal with unfortunate circumstances, when you have taught her that her ultimate savior is her husband? And what will she do, when someone challenges her faith? How will she abstain from compromising when others around her tell her to abandon her Islamic ways?
Perhaps it’s time we start teaching our daughters to be determined like Hazrat Sumayyah, the first female martyr of Islam. It’s time we tell our daughters episodes of her bravery, perseverance and strength. Despite being subjected to brutal torture, she did not change her stance; in Allah and his Messenger did she believe.
And today, we still tell our daughters to compromise their love for following Islam so that her husband is pleased with her, so that people accept her. Isn’t there a dire need of reconsidering the values we are teaching them?
“And whoever holds firmly to Allah, he has (indeed) been guided to a Straight Path.” (Surah Al- Emran, Verse:101)
-Written by Hira Zubair